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Olle Lindholm

You're not falling behind

Published over 2 years ago • 1 min read

I was out running the other day.

Another guy ran past me, his pace quick.

“Can I keep up with that?” I wondered.

I tried to follow suit, but then the other guy stopped.

His race was over. He checked his wristwatch and smiled. It looked like he had broken his personal record.

I was only half-way through my own race.

The rest of the workout was a drag. I had consumed a lot to keep up with someone else’s sprint.

As my fellow writer Claire Emerson says:

Stop measuring yourself on the movement of others. You’re different. Your situation is different. Your start isn’t comparable to their middle. Your middle isn’t comparable to their finish line. What other people achieve is irrelevant to where you are and what level of success makes the most sense for you. You are using your own map. You're on your own journey. Quit comparing. Or you’ll go mad.

How often do you get lured into someone else’s race? You can’t help but to feel behind — in your business, career, health, relationships, or wealth.

You need to "stay in your own financial lane" as Kevin Hart joked.

If you're feeling behind, take a step back. Change your perspective. In the words of Bon Jovi: you're exactly where you're supposed to be.

Where do you want to go next?

Have a great week!

Cheers,
Olle

PS. Looking for a light summer read? Check out my book The Inner Scorecard: How to Compete Against Yourself and Unlock Your True Potential.

Olle Lindholm

A Sweden-based author and coach.

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